Month: March 2018

Sometimes I lose the plot.

I’m not proud or happy about it, but sometimes I lose the plot. I’m human. I’m not perfect. And being a foster parent is hard work. So yes, sometimes I lost the plot. I know it’s not therapeutic or helpful to my children to yell and scream. But sometimes it is just one trigger too…

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Sometimes we have no idea.

Monday morning was a classic example of the boys being unregulated and me having no idea why. A lot of the time now I can figure out what the trigger is for the boys being unsettled.  That morning I had no idea. They were both in a ‘silly’ mood.  One of those moods where they…

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They’re just scared…

They’re just scared. It is becoming increasingly clear to me as I do more reading and more learning, that the extreme behaviours we see in our boys are because they are scared.  They are feeling fear. And this sets them into fight or flight mode. Lying, stealing, anger and defiance.  All of these become extreme…

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The stealing does my head in.

Stealing is the one thing that constantly does my head in. It seems so deliberate.  Though the training tells me it’s not. It seems deliberate because of the stealth that goes with it. It got to the point where one day after school I sat and cut off and stitched up the pockets in all…

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