We’re doing ok.

It’s been a few days since the boys left our care and we’re doing ok. I have taken a couple of days off work to help me to clear my head and reorganise our house.  I have managed to make it feel more calm and spacious which has really helped with our headspace. Pretty much…

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They’re gone 😢

And just like that they’re gone. The department decided that we were in burn out and moved the boys out today. We were told at lunch time and they were collected at 4pm. There is a sense of relief that the stress is gone and that it wasn’t a decision we had to make. There…

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I don’t know what to do…

I don’t know what to do any more. Over the weekend I emailed the department to tell them that the boys kept expressing that they wanted to move out.  In the email I also outlined some of the struggles we had been facing as a result of actions from the department and how we were…

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They want to leave.

The past two days, both boys have indicated that they want to move out. They keep changing their mind about it, but I decided that it was time to let the department know. Their behaviours are stemming from somewhere.  The request to leave usually comes after a consequence is handed out for a choice they…

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What do you say?

What do you say when you’re child says they would rather live with their mum because she has a trampoline and always gives him new stuff? I totally understand him wanting to be with his mum. I would be shocked if he didn’t. But all of these feelings mean that I am having to deal…

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I’m struggling

I’m struggling at the moment. I have gotten through one of the biggest months at work while managing the changed behaviours from school holidays. I have had (what feels like) the department accusing me of not feeding the boys enough food because they’re focussed on them being “skinny” (their words), and they “never feel full”…

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It’s been a while…

It’s been another long while since I have posted on here. A lot has happened since the last post too. We were assigned a new case manager for our boys. One that at first appeared to be a help for us. And she was. She at the very least got our boys into the much…

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